There is a lot of advice on getting your boyfriend back that you can find, some of it is good but most of it is lame. Does it really sound like a good idea to beg him to take you back? It doesn't sound good to me.
Other people will advise you to play games and try to make him jealous and though that may work, do you really want a relationship based on jealousy? Before you say you don't care remember that this type of relationship will not last. As soon as your guy knows he has you back or as soon as the old problems start to surface again your relationship will be over, again.
Apologizing can carry a lot of weight and especially so if the break up was caused through something you did. That is not to suggest that you are to blame for the way things turned out and that he has no responsibility but chances are you must have done some things wrong. An apology cannot hurt.
If you did make mistakes and you are mature enough to acknowledge the fact then see this as an opportunity to make changes. By doing so you will not repeat past mistakes should you and your man find your way back to each other and therefore will spare each other more pain.
Even if a reunion between the two of you does not result from your apology it is still a very good thing to do. Through doing so you will know what mistakes to avoid in your next relationship. When you figure out your mistakes and you make the necessary changes you will find that either way, you will come out of it a better person in the end.
When you do contact him to apologize, keep it short and sweet. Tell him you realize you made some mistakes and that you are truly sorry for any pain you may have caused him.
Do not make it a production no crying or begging. And do not expect him to immediately take you back, right on the spot. He will most likely not. But he may think about it for a while and decide that based on the 'new' more mature you that he would like to give things a second try.
Let him have his space if he doesn't immediately agree to a reconciliation. Leave him alone for a while and let him have the time he needs to make up his mind about what he wants to do. If you keep nagging him you will invariably worsen the situation.
While he has his space you need to move on with your life. Do not sit around waiting to hear from him. Do things that will make you feel good about yourself. Go shopping and do what you can to look amazing and get together with your friends. By just waiting for his call you will simply cause yourself unnecessary stress and time will appear to move frustratingly slowly.
By simply following this advice you will stand a much better chance at reconciliation than you would if you employ games and tricks to provoke him to jealousy. It's your choice - good luck!
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